Find Your Alter-Ego And Get Rid Of Shyness

One of the best ways to improve confidence is through preparation for an event or situation. When you know (or sort of know) what to expect or what might happen, you don't have to think and worry about the unexpected. Your brain and instincts takeover and allow you to enjoy the moment. You know what's coming and what's about to happen so you don't feel anxious and nervous.

You become more engaged with your date (or friends)... And you're able to relax and have a good time.

Or, show off your "skills" and wit.

Or, ask better questions to get others engaged and talking.

Preparation is something you should practice often. It will make social situations become a lot more natural to you. And, you'll feel just as comfortable and have a good time like everyone else.

But, another way to improve your confidence and to get rid of shyness is by DISCOVERING and USING your Alter-Ego. We all have one - a fierce and courageous personality that roams on a higher level within our psyche.

A higher level of Energy.

A higher Force.

A higher Power.

A higher level of strength and confidence that we are able to tap into IF we are willing to move out of our comfort zone and face our challenges and tests in life.

Beyonce talked about having an alter-ego: "Sasha Fierce".

Other celebrities use their alter-egos to conquer stage fright or to deal with the public.

Some salespeople rely on their alter-ego to deal with strong-willed customers in negotiations.

Many ordinary people (especially the ones who go out to night clubs) have alter-egos that they call upon before they go out at night, because they want to feel confident and have a good time.

Actors, I'm sure, have an alter-ego (or maybe even multiple personalities) to get into their acting roles as superheroes or action heroes or as sex symbols.

There's nothing wrong with that. You should dig deep and discover yours.

Sometimes you have to get in the Zone and take your mindset to that next level if you want to conquer your fears - or a particular situation.

I'm convinced that a lot of guys and girls (women) out there could discover who they are in life or what they really want to do in life if they weren't afraid to be WHO THEY REALLY ARE. They've always been what OTHER people wanted them to be. They've always done what OTHER people have wanted them to do. Their True Self (maybe their true Ego) is hidden way way Way down deep within their psyche (or subconscious). And, they're afraid to let it out!

These shy and awkward-feeling folks are "out of touch" and afraid to approach and meet new people.

They're afraid to face certain challenges in life.

They only dream about the life they want and don't believe in themselves enough to make that life come true.

They need to say "Fuck it", and just go for what they want out of life.

Don't worry about being rejected or failing or making mistakes. Just do it.

Everybody makes mistakes.

Learn. Use your instincts. Do your due diligence and research so that you can minimize mistakes. But, don't let Fear keep you from moving forward or growing or meeting new people.

Use your Alter-Ego and boost your Confidence!

Sometimes it may take another person to bring out that extra boost and confidence you need.

It's possible a mentor can help you find your true self or your alter-ego.

Sometimes it might take a certain situation to bring out these emotions or the character and Power you need to change your life or boost your Confidence.

Don't fall into the "cookie-cutter" model...

Alter-Egos come in all shapes and sizes and colors.

Some are like Bill Gates, the founder of Microsoft.

Some are like Edward Cullen, the vampire character of the Twilight Series.

Some are like Oprah Winfrey, the media mogul.

Some are like RockStars.

Some have the coolness and suaveness of the actor Denzel Washington.

Yours will be unique to You and give you the strength you need to be a true Leader.

You only have to find ways to draw it out.

And, it will be unique and stronger than you ever imagined.

Walk tall and let it overtake your senses, emotions, character, and personality. And when it does, hold fast to it and do the right thing for your life and for love.

- loveqna

A Supreme Way To Become Confident

Let's say you have a goal - a Dream to become something or to accomplish something.

For the moment, this goal or dream is your mission in Life. It's your new job.

Now, as with any new job, there are certain procedures you must follow and skills you must learn to do the job.

You will learn how to set-up your work station and create the proper working environment so that you can use your skills to sell, produce, or to accomplish certain tasks safely and efficiently.

During your training, you will pick up certain tips and tricks to make your job easier and your skills more effective. You'll have hands on experience and practice this crap everyday to improve your skills and game.

You will also learn what you need to do and how to respond when things go wrong. This will also improve your game.

After a few weeks, or several months, or a year (depending on the job), you will have enough skill and ability necessary to handle almost any problem that comes your way. You won't even think twice about it. If something goes out of whack or a customer has an objection, you know what to do. Even if you don't KNOW the answer or proper response, you know the logical thing to do is to get someone that does so that you can correct the situation quickly and move on.

More than likely, you're doing this on your current job right now.

You don't worry because you know how to respond if there's a problem.

And, that's what makes you confident in your ability to go to work, know your job, and do it without having any second thoughts about it. You could probably do that job with your eyes closed. Am I right?

You don't need a manager or supervisor standing over your shoulder coaching you. As a matter of fact, you could probably teach him or her a few things and train any newbie that came through the front door because you know what to do to get the job done and how to respond if any issues should come up. So, your confidence in doing your job is supreme. You're not afraid of screwing up or confused about what to do. You know what to do and you do it.

This is the way it is with having confidence while trying to accomplish your goals.

You learn the ropes.

You learn how to respond if there's an obstacle or objection or a roadblock.

If you don't know what to do, you look for advice and ask questions of people who have experience with the situation. Or, you go to the source and ask what you need to do next. Don't forget to think things through, research, and get a second opinion of other professionals or people in the know.

The key is "how you deal with the situation" or "respond" when problems arise.

It doesn't matter if you're trying to get a new job, get assistance, get a date, start a business, or if you're learning a sport.

When you know how to respond and deal with the situation, you should not be overly nervous, worried, or afraid.

You make moves. You use your game to overcome the drama. You look to the resources available for help.

You do whatever you need to do to keep your momentum going and that's all you should be concerned about.

No, it's not all cut and dried or easy, but it will become easier as you learn and move along. So, don't run from the drama. Complain, rant, and rave, if it helps you to stay motivated but welcome the obstacles. Learn how to deal with them so that you will know what it takes to accomplish this goal as you have learned what it takes to overcome the obstacles and problems on your job. Respond like a Gladiator and go to war with the issue. Use your supreme game and defeat it.

And, don't let one setback keep you down. I don't care if you've got to call around all day or travel from where you are to Timbuktu! Make moves and handle your business! That's having the eye of the Tiger and one of the most supreme ways to stay and become confident.