Now, I don't want you to think I'm trying to pass myself off as some communication or public speaking guru but, trust me when I tell you that improving your conversation, communication, and certain social skills, will help boost your Confidence and Lifestyle.
Even if you are superb at "communication" and getting your point across, improving your social skills can still help you get more happiness and greater opportunities out of life. Even if you're a tyrant, a bully, or a manager you can benefit just by the way you approach people, negotiate, delegate, interrogate, and show common courtesy and respect.
Now, I'm not saying that you should let anyone run all over you or be more humble or more passive. That would only lead to your downfall (or poor sales). I know there are times when you have to be assertive and commanding. Hell, if you're paid to be in charge, then be in charge. But, know that you create better vibes, more effort, and more opportunities when you lead with "good social skills" or "people skills".
(I'm starting to ramble...)
So, anyway...
The bottom line is:
If being in social settings make you nervous, uneasy, uncomfortable, or shy, research and develop your communication and social skills.
- learn from some of the gurus and their books or videos
- read (and when you have time, read out loud)
- learn scripts (similar to sales or medical questioning and advising scripts)
- create your own scripts or memorize and act-out certain passages and dialogue in a book
- role-play
- learn acting
- create communication and social rituals where you plan to say or do certain things everyday.
- learn social and communication skills from others
- don't doubt your social and communication skills too much; jump in and interact, and just go with the flow of statements and questions; if you don't know much about the subject just listen, learn, and ask questions
This will give you a significant boost in personal power because you will stop seeing simple situations as challenges for you to give a perfect "performance" and instead see these social situations as opportunities to have fun, learn, produce, and contribute to your growth, prosperity, and future. AND, you're helping the people you talk to in the same way. So, there's no reason for you to be nervous. You definitely should feel good about that.
Even if you are superb at "communication" and getting your point across, improving your social skills can still help you get more happiness and greater opportunities out of life. Even if you're a tyrant, a bully, or a manager you can benefit just by the way you approach people, negotiate, delegate, interrogate, and show common courtesy and respect.
Now, I'm not saying that you should let anyone run all over you or be more humble or more passive. That would only lead to your downfall (or poor sales). I know there are times when you have to be assertive and commanding. Hell, if you're paid to be in charge, then be in charge. But, know that you create better vibes, more effort, and more opportunities when you lead with "good social skills" or "people skills".
(I'm starting to ramble...)
So, anyway...
The bottom line is:
If being in social settings make you nervous, uneasy, uncomfortable, or shy, research and develop your communication and social skills.
- learn from some of the gurus and their books or videos
- read (and when you have time, read out loud)
- learn scripts (similar to sales or medical questioning and advising scripts)
- create your own scripts or memorize and act-out certain passages and dialogue in a book
- role-play
- learn acting
- create communication and social rituals where you plan to say or do certain things everyday.
- learn social and communication skills from others
- don't doubt your social and communication skills too much; jump in and interact, and just go with the flow of statements and questions; if you don't know much about the subject just listen, learn, and ask questions
This will give you a significant boost in personal power because you will stop seeing simple situations as challenges for you to give a perfect "performance" and instead see these social situations as opportunities to have fun, learn, produce, and contribute to your growth, prosperity, and future. AND, you're helping the people you talk to in the same way. So, there's no reason for you to be nervous. You definitely should feel good about that.